What if my partner doesn't want to do this?

Most partners who seem resistant are actually just worried it'll be awkward or afraid of "therapy homework." Here's what works: Don't announce it. Just try one question casually: "Hey, I saw this question today..." The first 7 days are designed to be light and fun. Most hesitant partners are hooked by Day 7. If not, 30-day money-back guarantee, no questions asked.

What if we discover we're not compatible?

It might be painful, but it's still a win. Better to find that out now than 3 years from now. The questions don't create incompatibility: they reveal it. If there's a dealbreaker, you're discovering it through 365 guided conversations instead of by accident years later. The goal isn't to "pass." It's to know.

Will these questions cause fights?

They're designed not to. We cut the gotcha questions, the interrogation questions, the ones that caused defensiveness. What's left: questions that invite sharing rather than justification. That said, any meaningful conversation carries some risk. But if a question doesn't feel right? Skip it. There's always tomorrow.

How much time does this take?

As much or as little as you want. The question takes 10 seconds to read. A quick answer takes 2 minutes. A deep conversation can last an hour. Both are valid. And if you miss a day? Miss a week? Just pick up where you left off. No streak to maintain. No guilt.

We already have great conversations. Do we need this?

You might already talk a lot: about your days, plans, and the fun stuff. This is for the conversations that don't always come up on their own. Fears about the future, money, dealbreakers, what "forever" actually looks like for each of you. It covers what everyday talk often misses.

How do I know these questions are good?

We started with over 1,000 questions and cut most of them. What survived: creates curiosity (not defensiveness), invites sharing (not justification), leads to more conversation (not dead ends), and works at multiple depths. We removed anything that felt like a gotcha or therapy homework.

What if we're not ready for deep questions?

You won't get deep questions on Day 1. Week 1 is light and engaging. Month 1 builds the foundation. Months 2-3 go deeper into family, conflict, money. The heavy stuff (fears, intimacy, future visions) comes after you've built the trust to handle it. You won't get a question about childhood trauma on Day 5.

What will I actually learn from this?

Specific things: their dealbreakers and non-negotiables, how they handle conflict and stress, what makes them feel loved (specifically), their relationship with money and family, their views on kids, career, and lifestyle, and whether your life visions actually align. Most of us never get this explicit unless something forces it. This is a way to do it on purpose.

Can I start without my partner knowing?

Yes. Many people do. Answer questions yourself first. Get a feel for them. Then when one feels right, casually bring it up. Your partner doesn't need to know it came from a product. The third-party frame actually makes it easier.

How is this different from couples therapy?

This isn't therapy. It's prevention. Therapy helps when something's broken. This helps you build something strong while things are still good, so they're less likely to break. Think of it as investing in understanding each other now, instead of trying to repair misunderstandings later.

Is this a physical card deck?

No, it's a digital question deck. You get one prompt a day by email, plus all questions unlock progressively in your private online hub. Access it from your phone, tablet, or laptop. No box in the mail, but you can save it to your home screen for one-tap access like a real deck.